"If my child turned out exactly like my partner (just as they are right now)- how would i feel? What would I think?"


I remember stumbling across this question randomly one day while scrolling on Instagram.

I just remember thinking, "Wow, what an incredibly profound question"

It helps put your relationship and your partner into a completely different perspective

Even if you have children already, even if you don't want them all, you can still picture it.


Obviously as humans we grow, we are capable of change, and sometimes we are put into situations where we want to see the best in people, give them the benefit of the doubt and give them time & a chance to reach their full potential.

To a certain extent I completely agree! Who I am now, who William is now, who we are together is so vastly different than who we used to be 9 years ago.

But our core is the same. Who we are innately is the same. Our morals are the same. Those things don't really change...

So if you had a kid right now, and they turned out EXACTLY like who your partner is at this moment - would you be happy? Proud? Sad? Regretful?


Years ago William would leave the toilet seat up, leave socks everywhere, and he wouldn't always be upfront about the things that bothered him and it would drive me crazy. At that time- I didn't know if he could/would change those (bad) habits for me, but I sure did hope he loved me enough to do it.

Over the course of nine years he did that and even more.

Here's the thing- even with those habits that drove me crazy- he is the most incredible human I have ever known.

His morals, the way he would take care of me, the way he would love me, do anything to see me smile, hold me when I was breaking down, loving me through all the ugly healing that I had to do, his patience, his silliness, his heart, his kindness, his intelligence, his wittiness, the love for his family & mine, I mean...


All of his good will always and would have always outweighed the bad.

So If we lived in a world where Love didn't have the power to compromise, change, grow, and morph

& he hadn't changed throughout all this time-


If my child turned out to be even 1% of that man, the earth would have another angel roaming it.

1% of the man he used to be or 1% of the man he is now, or 1% of the man he will be.

I would be so proud, I would be honored, I would be grateful, I would feel peace, I would feel relived, I would be so freaking happy.

If i think about it to much I genuinely start crying at the thought

because I know He would be the answer to someones else's prayer too


I know that I would have the most special kid

One who will be in this World, but not of it.

One who is selfless, patient, kind, does not envy, is not boastful, is not proud, does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs, does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

One who protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

One who seeks knowledge, wisdom, respect, and loves God.


I have adored William through every stage in this life we've shared together.

I am so blessed to have found someone so willing to grow, heal, and change with me.

We both had work to do to meet each other halfway

Love was always greater than any obstacle we faced

Love allowed us to confront the ugly, learn to love each other differently, and be there for each other in ways we hadn't been before.


So If you're reading this, My greatest hope for you is that you can answer this question with an overwhelming, "If My child turned out exactly like my partner - I would be the happiest freaking person on the planet!"


Thanks for reading!

- xo Ash